The Feminine in Expression in Sexuality

Here’s an interesting one.

I’ve been observing recently a lot of the programming that is portrayed in movies, tv programs, drama series and so on specifically with regards to sexuality and sexual expression when it comes to women.

The woman who is tuned into her sexuality always “steals” or has stolen the men from other less expressive women, it’s the same same story line over and over and over. This is used throughout every form of media in order to reinforce the insecurities of women that on one hand says they are less than something due to physical factors but on the other hand that also says to express ones sexuality is wrong. As well as this, it also says that no effort whatsoever needs to be made in terms of working with this aspect of ones being in order to be entitled to all of the benefits that come with expressing all of oneself, including the benefits that come from others in the form of mutual exchange of enjoyment and appreciation and just general increased interest in who you are as a person. It implies that sexuality is not an inherent part of a woman, and that it’s something only some women use because they’re horrible people. Then, the woman who is tuned into her sexuality gets blamed for everything, including all the faults of the other women and their unwillingness to do anything about them. They also get blamed for the desire of both men and women to gravitate towards them as a result of making more of an effort to express more of their authentic selves. It’s the same story, all the time. Except in the the media, it’s almost always the form of sexuality that is actually geared at control that is used to portray this distorted view of what sexuality actually is and can potentially be.

How about this instead? It takes work to make friends with your sexuality, and not only that but to learn to use it impeccably and with integrity and grace. It’s not something that comes naturally for most women, and even when it does, it’s because there’s been a hell of a lot of work done on it throughout past lives and the ages of extreme suppression of the feminine energy the expression of which many times came at the penalty of death. Not only this, but a great deal of the most authentically sexy and sensual women in the world have been raped, abused or experienced some other kind of horrible sexual trauma and have had to go through the gruelling process of healing themselves from that too, often by themselves. How then can anyone reasonably find an excuse to be jealous and to begrudge them of the evolved expression they have rightfully earned?

The sad fact is that a lot of women who can’t be bothered doing this work on themselves or are content to just connect with their partners in a less than desirable manner while maintaining the attitude of automatic entitlement to everything they want can be extremely jealous and can be downright vicious when it comes to being “usurped” by somebody who actually has done the work on themselves to the extent that others naturally want to be around them. Somebody who has done considerable self-work will automatically want to treat others better too, and so in their company both men and women who have been overlooked for their beautiful qualities elsewhere are of course going to be treated in the way that they actually deserve. I’m not talking about just in regards to the sexual act, that’s only one element of sexuality. What I’m saying is that there is a lot more to sexuality than simply sex, it’s actually a part of the makeup of who a person is and how they conduct themselves in general. The woman who has tuned in consciously to the healing power of her authentic sexuality is likely to have so much respect for herself and her own body that she will naturally bestow just the same on any potential romantic partner, because to do so would seem obvious and a natural extension of appreciating the divinity of oneself. The woman who is self-disrespecting to the degree that she hasn’t even looked at her own misgivings in this area is likely to not give a damn about the well-being of her partner on every level. As we know so well, we can only truly love others as much as we truly love ourselves. And so, self-love is the key to successful, loving and lasting relationships the hallmark of which is genuine authenticity.

The truth is, true sexuality beyond duality is so powerful and has such potential to shatter boundaries of limited expression and break the planet out into an entire new reality of peace, love and unity that we have been deliberated dissuaded from using this most indescribably valuable of tools for truly positive and world-expanding purposes.

Never have I seen more claws-out nastiness and outright fake feminine hostility in women than when it comes to the issue of sexuality. It makes a lot of heart-based women who aren’t operating through this programming afraid to use their natural sexuality, not because of concern over attention from men, but concern over how horrible their fellow women can be towards them as a result of expressing it. Many cannot stand the fact that somebody else is more comfortable with their sexuality and therefore may be in a position to attract more male attention, never stopping to consider the constant process of remaining in that space. What if they don’t really want male attention, but just want to be themselves? Sexuality can either be used to cause harm or to catalyze healing, and which one of those we choose is down to aware moment by moment decisions with regards to the highest way in which we can operate our energy at any given time.

The programming that has been given to women is horrific, it’s actually painful to really look at when you see the potential that could be there for all women to be really beautiful people if the programming wasn’t in place. As I say, we’ve been deliberately given a false and distorted view of what authentic sexuality is, in order that we can’t use it to be able to see the beauty not only in ourselves but in all of life, regardless of what our physical condition is. Beauty does not lie in the skin, it comes from deep within and ripples upwards to where it can be seen on the surface as a result of the inner glow of knowing ones own inherent value and worth. The most beautiful people are not necessarily those whose faces and bodies are perfectly contoured to an acceptable design, they’re the ones whos faces and bodies perfectly reflect the natural shining beauty that is inside.

Over the last decade most particularly, their have been countless stories in the movies and celebrity culture that back up all of these fundamental insecurities in women and reinforce the fake feminine programming that causes them to want to attack and belittle other women as a result of their sexual expression. All of these stories are stage set-ups, you know, threatrical scripts specifically designed to empower insecurities to such a degree that women would find it perfectly reasonably to wage war against each other based on them. Not only this, but also to give them a whole load more excuses not to have to do any work on themselves at all. Then, nobody changes and everything stays comfortably the same.

Always throughout history female sexuality has been blamed for everything that’s ever gone wrong ever in terms of misperceptions, misunderstandings and downright miscalculations of what is actually going on (check another theatrical story, Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden). We’ve only ever been shown cleverly orchestrated examples of the fake feminine when it comes to sexuality in expression, never examples of Sacred Sexuality the likes of which is very clearly available to us now. Thus, we don’t even know what Sacred Sexuality is when we see it anymore.

It may seem impossible to imagine considering how heavy the programming surrounding authentic sexuality has been, but there is a form of sexuality beyond all programming that is pure and completely without agenda, it is simply the love of the heart that is so ferocious in its intensity that it flows naturally into creative expression because it has to go somewhere and that’s what the cosmic creative energy that is sexuality is all about. It has no desire to control, manipulate, or be “in power” over anything. It just expresses, because it is. When we see this now, we interpret it as a threat, because it smashes all previous paradigms of what we recognise sexuality to be and we can’t handle the idea that some people in the world may have put so much effort into furthering themselves that they get to stand in this most lofty position of luminosity having reached it by their own incredible efforts.

One lady who has done a superb job of demonstrating the above is Cambridge artist, mystic, poet and all round muse, Jocelyn Woods. Jocelyn is actually wheelchair bound having been born with a rare neuromuscular condition, yet has through some miracle still managed to create beautiful art expressing profound sensuality using her body and her vision alone. I have been deeply inspired by Jocelyn, and my feeling is that she is flying the flag when it comes to the the sexuality of the Divine Feminine for all of us to see. How many can actually spot a real Goddess when she appears before us?

Find Jocelyn’s current project on facebook here – http://www.facebook.com/resurrectionofpassion